Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Farewell to Mom

As I mentioned in my last post, we were out in Vancouver to visit my mom in September.  We found out from her hematologist during that visit that her myelodysplastic syndrome had morphed into full-blown leukemia and he warned us that she could go anytime.  Since returning home, my mom took a turn for the worse, and passed away on Oct. 23rd.

We weren't able to make it out to see her again, but were glad that we spent quality time with her in September.  We were also glad that she died as peacefully as one could hope given her condition. 


My sister wrote a beautiful tribute to her on her blog, but I'm afraid I don't have the words in me right now.  It's been an exhausting 2 weeks in Vancouver for mom's funeral service and burial, and to take care of various tasks that are necessary after someone's death.  I'm eternally grateful to my sister for being there to help dad through this time; I could never have taken care of everything (or anything) without her. 

There are a million things to catch up on at home too.  We've been away almost the entire autumn so far, and it's amazing how far one can fall behind.  Once I'm caught up, I'll post more vacation photos.

Hoping all of my blogging friends are keeping well!

"I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be." ~ Douglas Adams

37 comments:

Burnt Mill Candles and Soap said...

you are in my thoughts

Stace said...

I'm so sorry Teresa, losing a parent is hard. ((HUGS)) You're in my thoughts.

TeresaR said...

Thanks, Misty and Stace; it'd been a rough couple of weeks, but we're healing now.

Meg_L said...

There's no rush. Take all the time you need. The pictures will still be beautiful!

As for a tribute, you and your sister are all the tribute she needs.

TeresaR said...

Aww, Meg, that was lovely; thank you. :)

Epicure68 said...

Thank you to the bestest, most wonderfulest sister in the whole wide universe.

I couldn't have made it through it all without you; dad would've been a bigger basketcase than he was, and I would've killed someone by the time the funeral took place, I'm sure.

And just to be sure to give credit where credit's due, Teresa's the one who managed most of our mom's friends. Teresa's the one who showed patience rather than snapping people's heads off. Teresa wrote tons of thank you letters to all the people who gave money towards the charities we chose. She also helped dad with a lot of his banking issues, and taking over as translator when we went to the lawyer's office, and I'm sure I'm neglecting to mention all the other things she did to make things run smoothly.

What a beautiful sentiment by Meg, thank you.

Under the Willow said...

You just must be exhausted- both emotionally and physically- hugs

I read the lovely letter your sister wrote- brings tears to my eyes- very touching and dear to the heart.

Thinking of you and your whole family- your mom seems like a wonderful person.

Epicure68 said...

Teresa, let me say once again (and I only repeat myself because I'm asian AND senile)but you have the most wonderful friends.

Alli said...

Oh Teresa! You and your family are in my thoughts. Losing a parent is hard. Take all the time that you need, we will all still be here when you get back.

BIG HUGS!

sherrieg said...

Oh, Teresa, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how exhausted, emotionally and physically you must be. I hope that you take some time to take care of yourself and do what you need to, in order to stay sane. Like everyone said, we'll all be here when you're back, and I'm thinking of you and your family. *Hug*.

MyKidsEatSquid said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom.

Minka said...

So sorry to hear this! I have no words....Hugs!

The Blonde Duck said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Grace said...

Thanks for linking M's letter. It made me laugh and it made me cry. It was really beautiful. Seeing you and M interact makes me wish I had a sister. Not that I don't love my brothers, but it just doesn't seem the same. Glad you're back and jumping right back in to where you left off.

Anne-Marie said...

Teresa- I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Michelle said...

I'm so sorry for your loss! You are in my thoughts ((hugs)). Hang in there!

TeresaR said...

Epi, oh stop, _you_ are the most wonderful sister!

Carrie, Alli, Sherrie, Squid, Minka, Duckie, Grace, Anne-Marie, and Michelle, thanks for all the love, hugs, good thoughts and sweet comments!

Diane said...

So, so sorry to hear about your mother.

It's wonderful to see the love and affection between you and your sister. You must be a great support to each other and I'm certain your mother must have been so proud of you both.

Your sister's letter made me smile and made me sad, a lovely, truthful tribute.

Take care.

Epicure68 said...

Grace, we're adopting you as a sister, but that means you have to take on your fair share of dealing with dad. ;)

Suds to Love said...

Teresa - Hugs - so sorry to hear about your mom - you and your family are in my thoughts.

trisha

TeresaR said...

Diane and Trisha, thank you, both.

Monica, it'd be nice to spread the pain around, won't it? :}

Epicure68 said...

And thank you to everyone who left comments on my page as well, you are all very kind.

And yes Teresa, I can't wait to fob dad off onto Grace. ;)

Maureen said...

Teresa, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I'm glad that you were able to visit her while she was still well though. We got to do that with my father-in-law. We had no warning that he had pancreatic cancer, and suddenly he only had 2 weeks-2 months left to live. He was really stressed about the kids seeing him ill, so we rushed out to spend Halloween with him and my mother-in-law. That visit was so special and I have reflected back on so many times over the years. It was the best gift we could have given him and he could have given us. I also love your new blog background!

Allison said...

My heart breaks for you. I am glad that you were able to spend some time with her. I am not a really religious person--but I do believe that death can bring solace--and I am sure this was the case for your mom. My condolences, Teresa.

Grace said...

Yay! Thanks M!
Bring it. If I can handle living in the same house as my parents for two years, I think I can handle just about anything! heh heh..

Amber said...

Teresa - I'm so sorry for your loss, but so happy you got to make that trip to see your mother. I know you have many happy memories to help you through this and I wish all the best for you. :)

Epicure68 said...

LOL Grace! I would imagine returning to your parents after living with your own family for so long would make you strong enough to endure anything else life throws at you.

The Blonde Duck said...

I hope you have a magical Monday!

Christine - Origami Mommy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Wishing you and your family many healing, peaceful thoughts.

TeresaR said...

Thanks, Maureen, Allison, Amber, and Christine...I do appreciate all your good thoughts.

Duckie, likewise!

Grace said...

just an fyi. It took me until this moment to realize why I've been craving cinnamon buns so much lately! I love the UBC recipe, but am going to have to try the other King Arthur No-knead buns.

TeresaR said...

G, I now use the Bread Lover's Bread Machine Cook Book recipe for cinnamon buns; I love having the bread machine make the dough. :)

Kris Bordessa said...

Teresa, I just saw this. I'm so sorry to read about your loss. I just spoke with my mom tonight, and the thought of her not being there to talk to just breaks my heart. So wonderful that you got to spend time with your mom in September.

TeresaR said...

Kris, we were glad that it all worked out to see my mom right before she died. It would have been much harder had we not seen her in a while. Hope your mom will live many more decades!

The Blonde Duck said...

I hope you have a good weekend!

The Blonde Duck said...

Happy Thanksgiving!

suzanne cabrera said...

Oh Teresa! My heart goes out to you. I'll be thinking of you today and throughout the holidays. You are such a kind person--I'm certain this is a reflection of your mother.